Hear me out: I had this friend in college, cute enough, had a lot of guys around her. Didn't hear about her until some ten years later. She was doing bad, going through a tough depression. She stopped going out and seeing people, she was working online and put on a lot of weight. So she texts me to share her story and she told me: now that I'm fat people are so rude to me they treat me badly, like a piece of furniture or something" she pauses a second and tells me "they treat me like a man".