Husband (45M) is in love with a lady (38F) in Thailand and he has left our family home (2 children about 10 years old) to be with her for 2 months overseas. He says to be patient and he’ll choose me or her when he comes back. what I can do to save our marriage?
I’m (32F) completely blindsided and am an emotional reck as I love him still and it will be hard to raise kids by myself. My kids, what am I going to do? We have a loving relationship until he completely blindsided me by announcing that he is talking to this lady located in Thailand everyday for six months and he’s in love with her! She’s his soulmate. So right under my nose (I found out) that he has been rerouting all of his mail to a box located in a UPS store. He booked a plane ticket and 5 star hotels in Thailand and has left our family to be with her for 2 months. I found out 3 weeks prior to him leaving from a text message from travel website on his phone and confronted him. Then he told me everything. For 3 weeks I tried everything to save our marriage. I begged him to stay, I told him it’s dangerous and give us a chance to work on our marriage- whatever it is that I have done, I can fix, just give us a chance! I got marriage counselors on zoom. I even told him I am willing to pay him $3k to cover the plane ticket if he cancels or at least postpone it. This is so that it gives us precious time to fix whatever could be wrong with our marriage. He walked out. He said he loves me but is not in love with me like his is with her. He says to be patient and when he returns he’ll then choose between me or her. It’s so unfair, it feels like walking up a mountain trying to reason with someone when their heart isn’t with you. So I want hope... is there any hope for our marriage and what I can do to save our marriage? Has anyone been able to save their marriage after the husband left? He said he will choose between me or her when he comes back so there’s still hope!
TL;DR! - Husband (45M) is in love with a lady (38F) in Thailand and he has left our family home (2 children about 10 years old) to be with her for 2 months overseas. He says to be patient and he’ll choose me or her when he comes back. Is there any hope for our marriage and what I can do to save our marriage?